Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Illusions- The book that disillusioned me


Books are like human beings. They come to your life for a purpose. At the most exact time, in the most apt situation and perfectly perfect way. All the books I have read in my life as I relate to, I had a ‘personal affair’ with them because they were in my life to teach me what I needed to learn the most at that moment. And similarly, there are books that you don’t complete.

Books, hence are those tools/ cutters/ hammers/filers that shape you/ polish you exactly from where you need a mending. Either you have overgrown yourself in some experiences or you are stagnant because of some. They just smoothen out the flow of life without adding or deducting anything.

This blog is about that book that has shaped (read re-shaped) my perceptions and helped me think to re-think.

I distinctively remember that afternoon when I and Navpreet had been talking about books (our third favorite topic after Astrology and “How hungry I am”) when she mentioned “Illusions”. The title itself, I must say, disillusioned me. Even though I had previously read two books by Richard Bach (incidentally both of them gifted by the same person).

Navpreet tried locating it in her library but found “Messiah’s Handbook”. And that was enough to arouse my taste bud for “Illusions”. I finished reading it while on way back home.
Even after reading it, I slept by it, gazed at it and wondered. I kept asking myself - “Really, is this book published already- an answer to all the questions I ever had… and that it was published much before I even started to look for them”.

Consequently, I had more questions. .. Do we all live a same life? Do we all have same questions? Do we all will be satisfied for the same light? Are we all searching for same things? Are we all same entities?

And this guy- Richard. I want to ask him sincerely-
1. How did you manage to write everything I had been looking for in just 144 pages. Continuously. Sequentially. Powerfully. Subtly and so Beautifully.
2.  How did you manage to handpick the best of everything?

I saw (and felt) the best of everything I have ever seen in my life while reading the book. Like, the most profound consciousness during my meditation session, the moment of extreme excitement while waiting for something good, stillness while finding yourself in safest hands after an era of struggle, the pleasure of seeing yourself naked- free from all the impressions you have layered yourself with. 

Reading Illusions was like having a personal affair with Richard. So intense...when you feel that you are with someone who is very close to you- like yourself!

Best part was- Richard was so kind to be available at every single moment I wanted to see him. He was always ready to jump out of the book shelf I had kept him and reach me. Sometimes when I reached home after work, or, in the bus/tram, sometimes when I felt lonely and carried the book by the sea, sometimes on weekends, lying on the bed while while feeling lazy to cook, we’d starve together laughing, saying “Hunger is an illusion”.

That is why I think writers have a stronger role than leaders. They affect you more because they are always ‘available’ for you. They help you grow at the pace you choose for yourself, without forcing you or making you feel weak/slow or even worse- guilty. You choose when to read and how much to read.

Writers are the wonderful tourist-guides that work on the rule of “I can tell you where to look but I can’t tell you what to see”.

I had been reading Illusions like eating gulab jamuns. You want to eat them all, but you don’t want them to finish. I hated myself for reading it slowly and loved myself for saving every unread chapter of it. Good news is- Illusions is not gulab jamun. You can re- eat it.. oops, you can re-read it.

My review of Illusions is in one line- This book is about Truth touching the fringes of your imaginations. And even vice-versa. 

Friday, July 25, 2014

Tere Ishq (Actually) Nachaya


"I love Jagjit Singh's gazals". Each time I'd hear this, my auto-correct brain software would go on rectifying mode- "Sorry, he is just a singer and the gazals you are appreciating are written by some other poets". 

People don't even realize the geniuses behind such masterpieces. And the front office gets all the credit.

Anyone can sing but not everyone can write. I thought so until I saw the catastrophe that Sona Mohapatra has created. I eat back my words that "anyone can sing". Dear Anyones, please don't sing!

I had been looking for "original " version of 'Tere Ishq nachaya' and came across this one, sung by Abida Parveen.

What an ecstasy to discover the masterpiece in original format minus the glamor minus HD cinematography minus gaudy clothes and colorful geographical locations. 

While listening to this, I almost lifted my arms and started to dance in ecstasy. It actually makes you dance! So divinely!

It softly, very tenderly percolates inside the deepest and most sensitive part of your heart and soothes it. 
A song of love- that evokes true love, truly.
Love which is not just limited to your lover but so humanly in nature that you makes you stop limiting it to a relation. Platonic love, may be.
Like, Love for God, ‎or gratitude, or respect, or love for something greater than just attached to an existence, something that you feel beyond time and words and experience.
May be for your mother, or someone who just guided you when you were lost or someone who just helped you see another part of yourself. Expressing the uncommunicative..

If you understand even a bit of Punjabi (even if u don't, there are subtitles) I suggest you can enjoy this piece of sheer genius.

Sometimes a particular language is able to portray an emotion in much better way than others. For example, pain/ betrayal is at best in Urdu. Similarly, I feel, probably dedication can best be explained in Punjabi. Punjabi has been brushed up for this…thanks to Guru Granth Sahib and other Sufi poets.

Coming back to singers.  I feel they have a very important role than just orating the words musically. 

A Singer- 

         1. Draws your attention to unfolding a deeper section of the art.

         2. Simplifies the complexities that could be beyond the reach of audience (but not change meanings). Like sometimes Jagjit would translate complex urdu words in gazals so that the listeners can enjoy it "actually".  

         3. Brings to life the masterpieces and presents before general public to enjoy which otherwise would hv been locked (read lost) in the History libraries.

        4.  Keeps the legends (poets/writers) and their craftsmanship alive that otherwise would have been lost in the contemporary music (read commercial) where people "watch" music than "listen". 

Listen to this song and you’ll realize why these devotees dance at the ISKCON temples. You'll realize why "love" is the default subject in literature. Could devotion be explained any better than this?
P.S. You do realize that I had valid reasons to be mad at Sona. You do, right?

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

I hate you- Sona!




I am that person who likes to call a spade, a spade. Generally I am sober except during my PMS or when someone does things where I feel it is justified to be mad at.

One of them is-  Insult to literature.

In any language, mispronunciation changes meanings. It becomes a laughing matter which I have written about previously. But when it comes to art and literature, it "affects" its beauty and to my belief, beyond forgiveness. 

And one such thing out of that being- wrong pronunciations when it comes to Punjabi literature. I am not Masters in Literature but I feel when you become a torch-bearer, you should either do it well or should politely hand it over to a worthy person.

You need to be a person of substance to sing Bulle Shah. You need to be soulfully worthy to even expect to pronounce his divine couplets. Just because you can show off your fashion statement or you have married a popular music director, you don't earn to be a Sufi singer- please limit yourself to meaningless indipop albums.  

Cutting the story short, this blog is dedicated towards my hatred towards the singer Sona Mahapatra (and love towards Bulle Shah) for singing (read ruining) and insulting this beautiful poem "Tere Ishq Nachaya" by Punjabi legend Bulle Shah. The pronunciation is so bad, that it changes the meanings and hence the beauty.

This is how this woman has ruined it:


Song 
Actual meaning  
Comments  
Tere ishq nachaya
Kar ke thaiya ve thaiya.
Jaldi aaja ve tabiba,
Nahi te main mar gaiyan.
Your love has made me dance,
Like a mad person.
Oh healer (Shah Inayat) come fast,
Or else I shall die.

Shah Inayat is Bulle Shah's Master. This poem basically is written as his dedication/love towards his Master.
Is ishq ki bagiya, me mayur aagaye.
Maine kaba-te-kibla mere yaar me paye.
Mujhe kar ke jo ghayal,
Mudd ke khabar na laiyan.
Peacocks have entered in this garden of love.
I found both Kaba & Kiblah in your love.
After having stabbed me,
You don’t even ask any news of me.
Is ishq dagar se, mujhe mod na maye,
Lahoo jate bede, kaun mod ke laye,
Meri akkal jo bhulli,
Sang malaahon ke gayian.
On this path of love, O mother, do not dissuade me,
For who can hold a boat once it has set to sail,
I was foolish,
I joined the Boatmen’s squad
Actual word- Malahon ਮਲਾਹੋੰ (Boatmen)
She pronounces as- Mai Lahon ਮੈਂ ਲਾਹੋੰ  (I remove... what??)
My reaction- oh just shut up!!
Bulleh Shah chal chaliye Inayat de boohe,
Jisne pehnaye hame,
Sawe te soohe.
Maine maari jo addi mil gaye peeya o dhaiya.
O Bulleh Shah, sits at Shah Inayat’s door,
The one who has dressed me,
In green and red.
When I tapped my feet and danced, I found my beloved.
Actual word- Chal Chaliye ਚਲ ਚਲਿਏ  (Lets go)
She pronounces as- Chhal Chhaliye ਛਲ  ਛਲੀਏ ( Lets deceive)
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Actual word- Addi ਅੱਡੀ (Ankle )
She pronounces as- Atti ਅੱਟੀ (An Elevation)
My reaction- Shame on you!
Tere ishq ne dera mere andar keeta.
Bhar zehar pyala, main aap hi peeta.
Your love has established itself within me.
This bowl of poison I drank myself.



The Learning Curve:

Once Dilip Kumar made a comment about Lata Mangeshkar"You'll like her voice when you hear her. But their Urdu pronunciation isn't correct and in their singing you can smell 'daal-bhaat' (implying a Marathi accent would come through in the pronunciation of Urdu)."
Lata felt terribly hurt and this made her learn Urdu so that she could pronounce it correctly- "When I speak, my Urdu isn’t very good but when I sing I make sure there are no flaws in my diction,".
About singing in other languages she says: "I first listen to someone who speaks the language and who reads the lyrics to me. I pay great attention to pronunciation. Once I hear the words spoken, I wrote the song lines phonetically in Hindi and then sing.

So Sona, here is a lesson for you to learn to be modest. If not more, at least 50 different singers have sung the same song. Pl YouTube it! 

And this wasn't enough. This is what I got to hear exactly on the same day when I am writing this. Incidentally or co-incidentally.  This is life!! 



P.S. Sona Mohapatra, even if you continue to remain my brother's crush, I am gonna hate you for the rest of 'your' life. Huh!



Monday, July 21, 2014

Life- A fictional story



“Life- 

A fictional story

of exceptional subjects


yet following a same pattern

linked with weird plots


tied with events planted at uneven dimensions

knit into real Time 

running into bits everywhere, yet complete

like a secret, yet known to all

in every single false-fraction that it exists 

and still brutally true."



What is more important- Love or Happiness?


And this time, I had this discussion with this guy who has seen “too much” in his life and considers that life has treated him inimitably. He is right. Whatever has happened to him is unique yet it happens to all of us. 

For all of us, our struggle is exceptional. We customize it as per our privacy settings.

He has been through a rough patch as well involving his continued quest for “looking for true love”, “for a settled life”, “searching for a soul mate”, “life full of happiness” and “everything perfect” in his life, and everything working out exactly as he had imagined it to be.

This guy, a very simple guy, I must say, has recently boarded the roller coaster by taking the “biggest decision in his life”. The initial twists and turns have churned his jelly heart and he is desperately looking for an escape route.

Having lead an unsmooth married life of compromises and misunderstandings, screeching silence and uncut sections behind and in front of the curtain, he finally felt “inspired’ enough to change everything that held him back. His “no” suddenly became stronger than “alright” that he had been shielding behind for a decade.

He realized, Love was that supreme sentiment that he had craved to live for. He has taken this biggest decision of his life to “get true Love”. He never denied not loving his wife or his wife loving him back any less. And this, as he goes, was the root cause-this discontentment in Love.  

Love-less-ness was the reason. They fairly loved each other but not madly. He had these gaps which he desired to be filled with a passion that drives a man’s life and has kept him emotionally restless since. She was dissatisfied too. 

Now, they live separately. Yet un-loved and un-happy. And now, searching for “happiness” in loneliness.

While he was already down with 3 beers, munching chips overlooking the harbor, I thought that was the ‘best time’ to evoke the profound thought.

“What do you think is more important in life ultimately- Love or Happiness”? I shot.

A sudden complete silence. A long pause. A staggering expression. His truth was a few sips away, yet had been so far.  

A small burp and his eyes turned dreamy. Probably objective questions are more subjective sometimes. The pause becomes longer than expected.

With a nod confirming his affirmation inside his calculatory head- he replied in a calm manner "..Happiness”.










Thursday, July 17, 2014

Lessons of Life

'If you think adventure is dangerous, try routine; it is lethal.' --Paulo Coelho
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I am sitting again with the packed luggage. Ready to leave. Leave behind what was with me for six months. To shift to a “better” place.

I got a chance to have a moment with myself sitting between the huge cartons.
“Will I again cry” I thought. And before I could answer, I was in tears. I lost it.

Errgh! Another “attachment”…. additional accumulation of miseries. Within my smart world getting smarter, I had once again forgotten the previous lessons learnt.

Life never stops teaching you lessons. Irrespective of whether or not you are prepared for any. And sometimes it is kind enough to send you polite reminders.

I learnt today.
There is no vacuum in life. If there is anything in this world which is balanced, it is Life.

It never takes things away and leaves you stranded. If it does, it always replaces with something else. 

Irrespective of how good or bad or neutral you find it, it will help you cope up with the new challenges ahead while retaining the nostalgia of the previous struggle tickling your ribs.
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Wednesday, July 16, 2014

What Life is...


What life is, we know not.
What life does, we know well.

~Lord Perceval


Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Top 15 Punjabi Beliefs

      (1)   You are disrespectful if you don't add "ji" before or after your sentence 



      (2)  Being loud signifies "strength"



(3)  The more dramatic you are, the more serious you are 



(4)  Ki farak penda hai (How does it matter) is the Punjabi way of "Being OPTIMISTIC" 



(5)  Laughing at the jokes cracked by the elders is a sign of respect (irrespective of how repeated they are)



(6)  All dark skinned are South Indians and are addressed as “Madrassi”.



(7)  A little exercise occasionally is all you need to stay healthy and you can do it anywhere.



(8) You must suffer from 'superiority complex" . 




(9) If there was no booze at the marriage- you didn't arrange the party well. 



(10) "Behen" is an incomplete word.



 (11) "Oye" is a universal word. It is grammar in its own. 



(12) Blaming everything on the school. "School vich ehi sikhande aan" (Is this what they teach you at school)



(13) Everything you say must sound comic and easy



(14) A kaala teeka (Black mark) will protect you from evil's eye.




(15) Bhangra is in our DNA. Yes, Bhangra steps support all forms of dances 







Punjabi rules of 'Dressing up'


(1) If you wear a red shirt today and another one tomorrow, people will think it is the same.



(2) Repeating a dress at a party means your father/ husband is not doing well.



(3) If it is sold cheap, it means it is low on quality.



(4) Buy a dress of 500 and show it off as that of 5000.



(5) A dark red lipstick is all you need to look awesome!







Monday, July 14, 2014

10 Food habits that only Punjabi parents teach you


(1) Over-eating treats all kinds of illnesses 



(2) If you don’t over-eat while being invited at a party, your presence is a waste 



(3) ​You’ll be famished at work/school if you didn't eat parathas in the breakfast




(4)If you are not fat, you are considered 'kamzor' (weak). The fatter you are, the healthier you are.



(5) Desi ghee is has no fats. Only 'taqat' (energy)



(6) From boosting stamina to relieving pains, paneer (cottage cheese) is a wonder food





(7) If you didn’t cook Rajma/ Chhole/Kadhi for guests- you haven’t treated them well 



(8) Next best dining place ever (after your home)- Punjabi dhaba on a highway. 

 


(9) Avoid unhealthy items like dosa and pao bhaji. Instead, have samosas or butter naan.





(10) If you are dark-skinned, none will marry you. 
Eating 'white' items like lassi/ milk will make you 'gora' (fair)