She declared
that she was pregnant, in office.
I was happy
for her, and sad for myself.
She is a nice
girl. She got married two years back to a nice South Indian guy whom she
considers is better than her. Husband is qualified, earns well, loves her, takes
care of her and saves for their future home and baby. Can a woman demand more
from life.
Whenever
there is any such position that demands setting up an example, or exhibits the
feature of a perfect situation, I have this nagging habit of putting myself in
that place and comparing. And the result, as always, is lambasting.
I have been
doing this with myself more than often, resulting in emotional mayhem and
lingering unanswered questions.
While on my
way today, I asked myself if all that I have lost was futile. Have I not gained
anything from the losses. Is that not enough sacrifice to be the person I am
today. Haven’t I become what I could never have, if I was a married woman with
kids and a middle class husband coming home every evening, and discussing home
loans. I even wonder if that perfect market situation (as per Economy) ever
prevails, and even if it does, it is uncertain as to for how long it does.
Sustainability brings a question mark.
I don’t all
have just sulking material too. Haven’t I found myself after losing all that I
had. Haven’t I realized that probably my
biggest target in life is to become a better human being, and keep moving. Not
having an aim is not an aim in itself, when you recognize that going with the
flow is a struggle too. I know I have been making up my mind and re-making it
too frequently. But hasn’t life taught to be happy in what we have got (or
remained, in my case) and to create the best out of it. Yes, I do get mad, act
childish and throw up soon but can I ignore the frequencies of these getting
lower. Are the indications worth ignoring?
Every day I
get unlayered and I see myself like never before, and get closer to myself. My
insecurities have increased in a number of ways, I agree, but at the same time
the trust too that these do comprise a life and in uncertainties lies the
certainty of strife.
At the same
time, I admit, sustainability will question imperfect situation too. I don’t know
how long this situation will prevail seeing the inordinate future.